The teenage years can be a lot of fun. However, those raging hormones can be a pain in the ass. Holy shit!! They never stop. Day and night, night and day. Speaking for myself, I never stopped being horny. For some of us, that “horny all the time” feeling doesn’t subside all that much, we just learn how to control it a little better.

For those of you that don’t want to lose your virginity or are not ready to “go all the way” with your boyfriend, dry humping is a great alternative to sex. First, before we get into how to dry hump your boyfriend, let me say that saving yourself is very cool!! Spreading your legs for every boy that tells you you’re pretty is not cool and brands you easy and a slut forever. Years from now when you go to your ten year, even twenty year high school reunion…guess what? You’ll still be the high school slut. Do yourself a favor and zip those legs shut. It is totally cool and much more tantalizing to make guys chase you. Create an air of mystery around you and keep your virginity.

When you dry hump I recommend keeping your clothes on. If you don’t, it will be way too tempting to just “slip it in.” I find that sweats or loose fitting clothes work the best and you should lose the underwear under those sweats. For your first time, choose the missionary position: You lying on the bed on your back and your boyfriend on top of you. Wrap your legs around his waist. He should be hard by now so position his penis so that it is pushing or resting right on top of your clitoris. If you don’t know where that it, you should do some exploring on your own before proceeding any further with this exercise. It’s important for a girl to understand her own body so she can make the most of her sexual experiences.

Start moving together. Start touching, skin on skin (backs, arms, heads, faces). Kiss each other. It might take some time to find a good rhythm so be patient. Make it fun and explore each other, don’t make it a homework assignment. If something feels good, tell him. If something feels bad or hurts, definitely tell him. Communication is the hallmark of a good sexual relationship; learn this early. Don’t be afraid to moan or make noises especially if you are getting close to having an orgasm. If you are getting close to orgasm and would like, have him move faster and focus more on the area of your clitoris. Learn, explore and fun getting know what feels good and makes your both climax!! It might take a few times before either of you reaches orgasm.

Once you find pleasure with this position, you can try new and different positions. You can straddle him while he lies on his back, grinding on top of him. This position is nice because you control the grinding. You can move yourself over his penis to feel ultimate pleasure and more than likely bring yourself to orgasm. Once you both are comfortable with these (and more!) positions, you may want to try adding a vibrator for more stimulation. You can try stimulating and bring yourself to orgasm while he watches and masturbates. This, of course, is for the advanced dry humping crowd.

If your boyfriend does ejaculate while you are dry humping, you need to stop immediately. Believe it or not, those little sperm can travel through his pants, through your pants, up inside you and fertilize your incredibly fertile egg. It is vitally important that you continue to practice safe sex even though you are still dressed. Once he ejaculates, stop grinding and make him get off of you. The party is over.

I wish you all good dry humping!!